Is that true? I only have an N of 1, but I'm blaming my complete lack of domination in me on it. I seem to have it all backwards....

So, New Year's Eve, this guy calls me up on the Fantasy X line and tells me that he is in the backseat of his car and his wife is driving them to a party. She's the dom and likes him to tell phone girls what he is doing.

So here's where I get it all mixed up. He tells me that at this party there is going to be a 'Spanking Contest.' All the mistresses randomly select a sub from all the ones at the party to spank. They all start spanking and the sub that cries first loses. Interesting. this guy tells me that his mistress spanked him really hard earlier that day. I assumed it was because she wanted to toughen him up so he'd be able to last longer tonight (I forget spanking is not the same as 'spanking it.') But, no, he told me it was because she wanted him to LOSE! That would be VERY humiliating. The winner of the contest is the mistress with the biggest pussy of a sub.
Now that I relay this story to you, it is all making a lot more sense. But I still think it will be a long time before I'm a decent dom. I think the first thing I need to work on is eliminating the "Do you like it when" from the "I spank your ass."